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Frenemies: The "Friends" You Love to Hate

Frenemies. We all know what they are, and we've all had them at some point in our lives. They're those people who are always talking behind our backs, putting us down, and generally making us feel uncomfortable. They're not really our friends, but they're not really our enemies either. They're somewhere in between, and they can be a real pain in the you-know-what.



So why do we put up with them? Why do we keep them around when they're clearly not making our lives any better? Well, there are a few reasons why we might find ourselves stuck in a frenemy relationship.


How Do You Spot A Frenemy?

For one thing, it's not always easy to recognize a frenemy when you see one. Sometimes they're really good at hiding their true intentions, and they might even seem like they're genuinely interested in being your friend. But if you look a little closer, you might start to notice some red flags.


Maybe they only hang out with you when no one else is around, or they always seem to have something negative to say about you or someone else. Maybe they're always trying to one-up you, or they only seem to be nice to you when they want something from you.


Frenemies often exhibit toxic behavior, such as:

  • Passive-aggressive comments and actions

  • Constant competition and comparison

  • Gossiping and spreading rumors

  • Excluding you from social events

  • Insulting you or putting you down

  • Making you feel guilty or ashamed


These are all signs that you might be dealing with a frenemy, and it's important to recognize them so you can start to take steps to get out of the relationship.


But that's easier said than done, right? After all, you might have known this person for years, and it can be hard to just cut them out of your life. Plus, there might be some part of you that still wants to be friends with them, even though you know they're not good for you.


So What Can You Do?

Well, the first step is to start setting some boundaries. Let your frenemy know that you're not okay with the way they're treating you and that you expect to be treated with respect. If they continue to be negative or hurtful, it might be time to start limiting your interactions with them or even cutting ties altogether.


Another important thing to do is to surround yourself with positive people who build you up and support you. These are the real friends, the ones who are there for you through thick and thin, and who genuinely care about your well-being. Spend more time with them, and less time with the frenemies.


And finally, don't forget to take care of yourself. It can be really hard to deal with the stress and negativity of a frenemy relationship, so make sure you're doing things that make you feel good. Take a yoga class, read a good book, or just spend some time relaxing with friends who make you feel happy and supported.


How Can You Help as a Parent?

But what if you're a parent, and you're worried about your teenager being in a frenemy relationship? How can you help them?


First of all, it's important to talk to your teenager about what frenemies are and how they can be harmful. Make sure they know that it's okay to set boundaries and that they deserve to be treated with respect. Encourage them to surround themselves with positive friends who will support them and lift them up.


It's also important to model healthy relationships in your own life. If your teenager sees you tolerating toxic relationships, they might think it's okay for them to do the same. Show them what healthy relationships look like by surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people.


And finally, don't be afraid to seek outside help if you're worried about your teenager's mental health. A therapist or counselor can help your teenager work through their feelings and develop healthy coping strategies.


Final Thoughts...

Frenemies might be a fact of life, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with them. By setting boundaries, surrounding yourself with positive people, and taking care of yourself, you can start to break free from the toxic cycle of frenemy relationships and build a happier, healthier life for yourself. Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and you have the power to create the life and friendships that you want.


If you have any questions or comments, please don't hesitate to leave them below or click the button to set up a free chat. I'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation!



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