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Setting Boundaries Like a Boss (Teen-Style)

Hey there, teen peeps (ok, maybe I'm showing my age a little there...)!

Have you ever felt like people are constantly stepping all over you? Maybe your friends are always asking you for favors, your parents are controlling your every move, or your crush keeps invading your personal space. Whatever the case may be, it's important to set boundaries to protect your own needs and feelings.

But what exactly are boundaries? Think of them as invisible lines that you draw around yourself to protect your personal space, emotions, and values. They're like the force fields in sci-fi movies that keep the aliens at bay. Cool, right?

Here are some tips to help you communicate your boundaries like a boss:

  1. Know thyself: The first step to setting boundaries is to figure out what you want and need in your relationships. Do you need more alone time to recharge your batteries? Do you want your friends to stop gossiping about you behind your back? Do you feel uncomfortable when people touch you without permission? Make a list of your personal boundaries and be specific about what you do and don't want.

  2. Speak up, buttercup: Once you've identified your boundaries, it's time to assert yourself. This can be scary, especially if you're used to putting others' needs before your own. But remember, you have the right to express your feelings and needs. Start by using "I" statements instead of blaming or accusing others. For example, instead of saying "You're always invading my personal space!" try "I feel uncomfortable when people stand too close to me. Could you please give me some space?"

  3. Stick to your guns: Sometimes people may push back or ignore your boundaries, but don't let that deter you. It's important to stand your ground and be consistent in enforcing your boundaries. If someone keeps crossing your line, calmly remind them of your boundary and the reasons behind it. If they still refuse to respect your wishes, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship.

  4. Respect thy neighbor: Just like you have the right to set boundaries, so do others. It's important to respect other people's boundaries, even if they're different from your own. This means asking for permission before touching someone, not spreading rumors or gossip, and not forcing your beliefs on others. Remember, healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and communication.

Now that you know the basics of setting boundaries, let's put it into practice with a fun activity!

The Boundary Game

  1. Grab a piece of paper and draw a big circle in the middle.

  2. Inside the circle, write down all the things that make you feel happy, safe, and comfortable in your relationships (e.g. spending time alone, being listened to, being hugged).

  3. Outside the circle, write down all the things that make you feel unhappy, unsafe, or uncomfortable (e.g. being teased, being ignored, being touched without permission).

  4. Now, grab a friend, sibling, or another family member, and imagine you're playing a game of catch. Throw a ball back and forth to each other, but with a catch (pun intended): every time you catch the ball, you have to name one of your boundaries. For example, "I don't like it when people touch me without asking" or "I need alone time to recharge my batteries." Your friend has to listen and respect your boundaries.

  5. Switch roles and let your friend name their own boundaries.

  6. Keep playing until you've both named all of your boundaries, and make sure to respect each other's needs.

Final Thoughts

Congrats, you're now a boundary-setting pro! Remember, setting boundaries takes practice and courage, but it's worth it for the sake of your mental and emotional well-being

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